Dress nicely, as the girl will appreciate the effort put into looking good for her, and encourage her to do the same. If you do end up having sexual relations, she will feel guilty, and it will affect your relationship, you can count on that. Oh, and remember LDS girls are usually good at leading guys on with potential sex to get guys to agree to what they want join the church. I look at my single male doctor colleagues and some of them are sweet and honestly looking for a connection. It may not seem like a big deal now, but eventually it will probably surface that at best, the church impacts and influences her behavior in almost every area, at worst, it dictates it. I thought it was beautiful that they included him in the circle, even though he was not a Priesthood holder. As I started to date and fall in love with my husband, almost everyone I knew was against it. Going back in time, it was never encouraged for people to marry outside their faith and this covered most christian religions in the United States. I've been in a similar situation before.
She views patriarchy as a quality of God. Although there are no strict rules as to who should do the asking, the Mormons are very conservative and in general, they expect guys to do the asking. You are atheist and that's not changing. I sacrificed a career and instead raise the children at home which often feels like single parenthood. Or get them met elsewhere. How could I help a non-Mormon spouse to feel like a member of my ward family when he is not a member of my church.
I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains. Despite whatever may come our way, this relationship is the most important and even though it's forever it needs to be nourished. He blames this on his hours for residency, and to be fair they are really long and insane. I just found your blog. I'm engaged to a junior intern and we're supposed to get married soon. That's all we're really saying.
I have never been your typical domestically skilled stay at home mom. He had no idea what he was getting himself into. I chose to get married and move across the state to live with my husband and left my job, family and friends and let me tell you, it's been tremendously difficult to meet new friends in the new town. Someday she may really regret everything, and miss you like crazy. I was shocked how much the stress, lack of sleep, etc. While the Church allows dating at 16, it discourages serious relationships until you both are older and considering marriage. Thank you thank you for writing this blog. He was home alone on his one day off while I took off with our kids to visit family states away.