Thanks again for the continued comments and replies to my edit. Maybe you will win. In the end people have to make their own decisions. How do you feel about that. So any support on how to deal with ocd behavior, heavy handed opinions, would be helpful. Their thinking is something like this. I had many extremely hurtful things said to me, along with an intervention hosted by my married-in-the-temple-and-divorced grandmother. You're walking into a den of crazy, tbm bishop's daughter, I hate to say it but you should really be contemplative about what you're stepping into.
It is soooo hard. We learn sooooooo much from each other. She might be everything you want, but in her eyes you are not what she has been dreaming of her whole life. I respect all doctors so much, they go through hell to be where they are and put up with so much stuff at their work too. I often think about what I would tell my daughters if one day they tell me that they are dating a doctor……. They don't want to accept that someone can understand the doctrine and choose to reject it.
There is no freedom to think, no freedom to speak your mind, and no freedom to do anything that 'the brethren' say not to. So I knew what I was getting into when I married him though I secretly hoped he would still convert back. We always went every Sunday, had family prayer and scripture reading, etc. That's all we're really saying. I do not see this going well. I don't want to advocate manipulation but asking questions concerning Joseph's dishonesty about polygamy to his first wife and his marriage of other men's wives and marriage of a 14 year old may prove more fruitful than just saying wow polygamy is messed up. We've been dating two plus years, and we find a key is taking vacations. I believe when you die, you die, and you live on in memories and hearts.
That was my experience. It's been tough to always move and find a new job, friends etc I agree a support system is needed. But the loneliness and the hours ER shifts are taken everything I had left in me. All those are reasons to give the church some elbow room but they are not reasons for actually staying. In fact, your GF is probably one of the countless Mormon women who get married only to find out they have zero sex drive because of what they learned growing up. Would she want you to attend church with her. Though my mother never openly complained about this, I could see it in her eyes. I only hate one thing in the planet, and that's the Mormon church. You are too young to deal with this. Thanks for sharing your story.