I've learned that when I need attention, it's best to ask for it rather than wasting time acting sad or frustrated. We are alone for many months at a time. She will be pressured and will likely shut you out. When you said that the doctor spouse sacrifices for their patients and their family sacrifices for the doctor's career, it really described my situation. Having read the majority of the posts, my only real comment is that "sacrifice must be appreciated by both parties". I still love my Heavenly Father and my Savior. I know this from experience. I gave her a piece of my mind as my home is much happier and healthy now then when I was married to my x. With such high standards of perfection, Mormon girls want a man who validates their efforts and confidently provides directionвa man who expects them to be beautiful. Sometimes I feel burned out, but I have to carry on.
That being sais, just be honest. I have known many women who have married non-members and are happy. We are talking about kids and I know it will all fall to me. I remember when I had my first son via C-section, our families came to the hospital with Champagne and celebrated, not even one asked about my surgery…. If He can answer prayers to help you find missing car keys, He surely can help you understand who it is that you should marry. Listen, you are in a bad situation and it just has not come to a head yet. This is the type of doctrine that Joseph rejected and so have the leaders of the church. I agree with Rachel- this is not what I signed up for. We had a long distant relationship for 3 years.
There will be pressure to go to church, marry in the temple, Yada Yada You will want to make sure you're ready to battle this for years, maybe a lifetime. It CAN work, to be frank. I am becoming more lonely now than before. I would need to ask my husband again.
Oh, boo hoo to me you say When you are made a promise and fall in love with a man who has a broken marriage, you begin to believe that one day you will be with him. Why prophets are awesome. If it is even possible, would it strengthen or weaken their ability to develop a personal relationship with their Heavenly Father. Amasa enjoys art, music, and traveling. If you do attend parties like that, expect her to drink 7-Up and volunteer as the designated driver, and to be completely repulsed if you drink too much. There is no such thing as a perfect Mormon family- regardless of whether the parents are sealed or not. Because she will think that all of a sudden she is going to hell for being human, that's mormon sexual repression. Then we can at least cuddle and go to bed together.