He has spent years building his practice and is a busy, highly successful pediatric surgeon who is compassionate and respected by everybody, but I think by nature, it is hard for him to be empathetic or to relate to more personal issues. How does one go about trying to develop a relationship with someone whose schedule is so unpredictable and whose free time is so sparse. The fact that she is dating an atheist non-Mormon shows pretty serious lack of conformity already. The Mormon church is certainly a time consuming church. Please wait a few minutes and refresh this page. If you are willing to wait, then well and good; otherwise, it is best to move on. If my mother needed her surgeon's attention, I wouldn't want him to be thinking about his wife's lamenting that he's never home, not romantic, etc. If you marry her, you're marrying into a cult, a mild cult as far as cults go, but a cult nonetheless. I think your response is Bang on. I love how this applies to ALL marriages.
That being said, there are some facets of the religion that you should be aware of that will influence how she approaches both you and the relationship. Be open to the wisdom the Spirit will share. Maybe you do, too. Is this a red flag or are we both just being stubborn. Just an idea, I have no idea what would actually work for her. There are a lot of single people in the world.
Disney gives them the fantasy where they can easily achieve a standard of perfection with low risk. All I can recommend, as a docs wife of nearly 30 years, is prayer or to book a few sessions with a psychologist. I just wanted to let SN and AD know that, if you decide to choose this path, you are not alone. The doctrinal and afterlife issues around a non-temple marriage are an entirely different topic, and one that I am personally much more at peace with than my questions about how one might make an interfaith marriage work in this life. I realize my situation is less about marriage, and more about dating, but any advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm so comforted by this thread. I was lucky with my TBM. He knows that is a possibility.
Make sure you are According to the teachings of the Church, Mormon youth should not date before the age of This is more of a custom than a hard rule, but it is a good standard to follow, as you will probably not be mature enough to effectively handle that kind of personal relationship before then. I tell her there's no pressure and we'll just see how things play out. After our child was born, I can say that my resentment of my husband started to grow and overshadow the respect I have for what he does.