Things are very hard for me right now too. Notify me of new comments via email. It's in the Mormon DNA.
This can be a good way to learn more about your personalities. If you can't do that, realizing that your partner may never come around to your side of things, you are not ready to marry this person. It's a heart-wrenching story. And a happy ChristmaChannuKwanzaKah to everyone. Masculine attributes attract healthy, beautiful women, no matter where they come from. Consider also the evolving perspective of the potential husband. Again, though the evolving times may have brought about a relaxation in this rule, it is still followed by many youngsters.
That's the real issue. Neither of our children ever considered medicine as a career after seeing how much their dad missed out on. Comes home 4 am and 7 am he goes to work again. Hiring someone to read for research does not work for a variety of reasons. Every new set in our ward looks at him as fresh meat. My husband has the benefit of having his cake and eating it too. I've done the pre-med, med school, residency, etc. Where do you find Mormon girls. He'll pitch in when he can, but that isn't too often. By the way the dog is a corgie.
Marriage is hard, period. Many, many lapsed Mormons catch the true vision of the gospel at some time in their lives and desire to repent and become observant again. The two of you can get married in the temple and live together forever for eternity. I have had more than one girl, who I had definite chemsitry with, who the girl really liked me and we had deep and intense conversations as well as a real physichal connection to. They don't want to accept that someone can understand the doctrine and choose to reject it. It's hard right now because he's on a general surgery rotation so his hours suck and I never see him. After our child was born, I can say that my resentment of my husband started to grow and overshadow the respect I have for what he does. I knew a Mormon girl who got rides from her Mormon friends for casual sex dates with men she met on Tinder.