I'm beginning to think that it should be a monthly visit no matter what. At that point we quit going and focused on her goals and family bonding. I often feel it's harder than being a single mom because the false hope is just torture. I've read some of the articles linked to by mormonessays. God knows the big picture. What is it like to become a doctor in your country. I would probably suggest that you cut your losses now. Married men should not reach out to vulnerable women who buy their story of being lonely bc they are married to a woman who should have been a librarian. We like each other, but I feel like giving up also at times.
Now look at the flip side в if he loves you, and realizes you fully believe, how will he deal with the importance of the temple to you. Many Mormons stick to a small group of friends within the church. Those will make her think. I'm quite willing to take you at your word, but my guess is that academia had nothing to do with your ex being immature. Anecdotes vs a much larger sample size. Flirting Questions to Ask a Guy. But, as soon as the marriage happened, the Mormon spouse goes full on Orthodox and expects the non Mormon to comply. If your heart longs for children, a family and love- why should you stop yourself holding out for some mystical Mormon man to swoop you off your feet.
But from what you said, this girl doesn't sound like she is going to be content to have a marriage for time only. The church is very important to her. I have a better and fuller relationship with God because my own practice has been supplemented by additional observance. They are not God. All I can recommend, as a docs wife of nearly 30 years, is prayer or to book a few sessions with a psychologist. We'll have to discuss that, now that I actually know some things about some things. To me, life is all about growthвso ask yourselfвwill I grow more staying single and focusing my life on the church, or will I grow more branching out, looking at life from different perspectives, and allowing myself to see options I have not yet considered. Too many disappointments, sick nights without your husbands, his absence during family gatherings, my usual OBGYN checkup without him, even simple things of hugging and spending quality time is always remote. She said we couldn't watch it because the lady who produced the doc was formerly a professor at BYU but has since left the church, so she wouldn't have anything good to say.
Having said this, there are several aspects of this particular religion that you need to be aware of as these will greatly affect how she will approach you and the relationship as a whole. We raised 2 wonderful children who are now happy and successful adults. If you shift his way, be prepared for the social costs of inactivityвplus, if you really believe the doctrine, a crisis of faith. A lot of Mormons escape that pitfall and can put people first. That was my experience. It does not come from common religion or personality or even values; it only comes through mutual self transcendence. What about the folks at church. Because service is important in the Mormon faith, she may be interested in doing something that will help others, like helping someone clean their yard.